Premarital Counseling & Wedding FAQ
How far in advance should we start planning our wedding?
Call the church office as soon as you become engaged; ideally at least six months in advance of when you would like your wedding date to occur.
What do we need to know to get started in the process?
We know that those who take pre-marital counseling make a wise choice to help their marriage have a greater chance of success. With that in mind, couples are to complete a minimum of seven pre-marital classes and two private counseling sessions. To begin the premarital process please review the Wedding Policies and Procedures Manual.
How are the classes conducted?
There are seven classes that are conducted in a group setting. The group dynamic creates space for encouraging dialogue and relational connection with other couples. At present, all of the sessions are offered on a virtual platform.
What do we talk about in the counseling classes?
You will discuss many subjects throughout your time together. These subjects include allowing Christ to be at the center of your relationship; your marital roles and responsibilities; skills for communicating and resolving conflicts; realistic management of finances; your sexual relationship; your family of origin, and much more. Your relationship strengths will be discussed, as well as areas that need growth. Although the program is designed to cover certain topics as you go through your workbooks, you will have the added benefit of experiencing fellowship opportunities at a variety of couples events.
What should I expect from the whole counseling experience?
You should expect to be challenged, strengthened, educated, and better prepared for your upcoming marriage. You will probably experience some laughter, some tears, and some pleasant surprises! You should leave your premarital counseling with some problem areas identified, some new marital skills learned, and a more realistic expectation of what marriage will be like.
Who are the counseling facilitators?
Although they are specifically trained in facilitating premarital counseling classes, they are not professional, licensed counselors. They have chosen premarital mentoring as their ministry at NCCM. One of the goals of the ministry is to provide all premarital couples an opportunity to establish a mentoring relationship with their mentoring couple, thus encouraging their present and future connection and fellowship with their NCCM family.
Is there a cost to attend the classes?
There is no cost to attend the classes or for the materials.
Can couples who are already married take advantage of the classes?
Married couples are welcomed and encouraged to take advantage of the group classes. While the sessions are essential for marriage preparation, the topics are beneficial for married couples seeking to strengthen their covenant relationship.
Can we take the class if we are not engaged or already married?
No. The class is designed to address engaged couples with a serious commitment to be married in the very near future and married couples seeking to strengthen and enhance their relationship. The topics are crafted to prepare couples in those categories exclusively.
Can we take the class even if we aren’t members of NCCM?
Yes. The classes are open to engaged and married couples, and is mandatory for all couples desiring to be married at New Covenant Christian Ministries.
