Communication is not:
- -just what you say
- -just an ability to speak well
- -just a one way or individual effort
- a system of symbols, signs or behaviors that may or may not include words. An act of transmitting and receiving
- the process by which information is exchanged between individuals
“I wonder how many…issues could be resolved…if we would simply come together…and have an exchange between individuals.” – Pastor Billy Johnson
Three components to communication:
The Message itself
Keys to Effective Communication
Sometimes it not what you say or how you say it but WHEN you say it.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 –
1 To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven:
2 A time to be born,
And a time to die;
A time to plant,
And a time to pluck what is planted;
3 A time to kill,
And a time to heal;
A time to break down,
And a time to build up;
4 A time to weep,
And a time to laugh;
A time to mourn,
And a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones,
And a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace,
And a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to gain,
And a time to lose;
A time to keep,
And a time to throw away;
7 A time to tear,
And a time to sew;
A time to keep silence,
And a time to speak;
8 A time to love,
And a time to hate;
A time of war,
And a time of peace.
Proverbs 18:13 – He who hears a matter before he hears it, It is folly and shame to him.
Listen to understand as opposed to listening to defend yourself.
“One of the greatest gifts to give somebody is understanding.” – Pastor Billy Johnson
Listen to understand as opposed to formulating your next thought.
“It is so easy to get lost in our own thoughts that we really don’t hear what the other person is saying.” – Dr. D’Ann Johnson
Proverbs 11:13 – A talebearer reveals secrets, But he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter.
Be the person that people can trust.
Be thoughtful in the way you say things.
34 Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. 35 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things. 36 But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. 37 For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
“You can only bring out of your heart what you put in there.” – Pastor Billy Johnson
Acceptance of an Appreciation for Differences
“Different is not bad; different is just different.” – Dr. D’Ann Johnson
Get to a place where you can appreciate differences.
It is wrong to think that everyone should be just like you.
“Benefit from the differences rather than being divided by the differences.” – Pastor Billy Johnson
Value what others have to say.
“Your way may very well be the right way but it’s not the only way.” – Dr. D’Ann Johnson
Lethal Weapons Against Communication
C – Criticism
R – Resentment
U – Unresolved Issues
D – Disrespect
Secret Weapons for Communication
H – Humility
A – Appreciation
R – Respect
P – Prayer
S – Sensitivity